Chapter 1: I am good

First of all, you may notice a slight change in the intentions of content and my way of writing it. Well, I don't give a damn! You may choose to read or not to. "Freedom of choice to read" fundamental law which cannot be broken.

This is an odd way of starting the knowledge (but I think this is the key factor in determining your way of life. This is not something I have chosen to be a part of my original content but I am human. The way we know it: Human is a learning machine. And me, lets see

I am a learning "MACHINE".

Being a learning machine I thought this is important.

Everyone is good. At least, everyone is good in their own eyes. Few people realize they are bad. That is why I am attracted to the concept of Devil. "Yeah I m bad, so what", this comes to our mind when we think of concept of devil (or may be in my way of looking at it).

So what is good?? Ethics, righteousness, helping others, sacrifice, calmness, honesty, conscience.

Ha. . . its a really broad term. Subjective, subject to change.

So everyone is good. Look at yourself. You can only look with your own eyes. Do you something bad in you. The most answered answer to ourselves, "Yes, there are something things not good about me, but I am not bad at heart."

We have other variants as well, even more than i quote here.
"I am a little bad but only to those who are to me"
"'Good for good, bad for bad', that is my philosophy"

Lets take a third person view (if u can). What do all of these suggest. Well, can u digest, can you?

I may be bad but not that bad. Here there is an implicit meaning "like others".

:) All think the same. The best part is, no one thinks he falls in the category of "like others". I guess, I am the ONLY ONE.

Everyone has this thinking circuit. I call it "Self justification circuit". Its a circuit I am planning to code. May be this will make machine the "Mean Machine". This circuit has a excellent survival property, anytime it feels something is not done according to its definition of good it does one of the two things:

• Justify it with any possible accepted logic
• Associate the recipient of the action with some bad behavior and apply the theorem "Good for good, bad for bad"

Its just amazing how this circuit works. Without failure, it never hangs never gives wrong output just functions well. Its the most robust algorithm I have seen.I am a programmer, so I use this terminology. In a nutshell, it an error-free, robust mechanism. Skip the following section if u understand in what context I am talking about. To help I here have a very simple example

Here's how it works:

Case: You and your roommate (lets call him X, assuming both males) share a common washroom and a common time for office.

Scenario 1: You woke up and were in playful mood. You saw your friend going to washroom. You felt some naughtiness inside you and there you go at lightning speed to pick your towel and went dashing in the washroom just before (or moments before) X made it. X made few shouts, but you (with all naughtiness coming alive in you) laughed and said "Better luck next time, buddy"

Your thoughts: Wow! that was fun. At least we are understanding and i was just kidding.

X thoughts: He is just being funny. Anyways its OK. He understands that I understand.

Scenario 2: Days past. You had plans for tomorrow. There was important meet in office. You woke up to reach quickly. Your friend made the "Dashing entry". You made few shouts. But, you know what, one can not listen the wording in washroom. The only thing that comes in is someone shouting. Yes, of course, tap is on (in case you think: "I hear pretty well even there"). And when X comes out you share frown looks and silently go to respective workplace.

Your thoughts: What is this! I had to reach early. What the hell! everyone is not in playful mood all the time. I was shouting that I had a meet.  

X thoughts: What the f**k! He can do whatever. I was just being funny like he did. Now why is the face frown

Analysis: Well, this seldom occurs when both are males. To occur, there has to be some complexity in the scenario. I agree, the first sound from your head: "No, I wont do that. I know i joke with him so he did the same no problem in that". But, my dear reader, situations in life are not that simple its just analogy and I bet you can reduce a complex situation from your life and try to simplify it in the given problem. As a matter of self analysis try it out. Just try to remember a situation which had similar grounds and similar reaction from your side.

Now think of the solution: Most of us will say: Only do things which you can handle in return. Is that the problem? Is that the real solution. Its quite obvious, that if you had meet you will feel bad. And this doesn't mean you cant handle naughtiness of your friend.

So what is the solution? We already rejected that I wont kid anymore.

Why? Because we wont have fun of life. It will be too strict to live with. Then, "I wont mind if X does that". Really? Do you have that much in you? Do you have it in you what it requires? What if this was way important than presented in the scenario? What if it repeated itself more that you could count? Think over it

I know, the obvious question, what do I suggest. Do I have solution for it? Or am I just representing the problem rather then giving solution. Well I have but you should have the analytic ability to find it out from the following sections

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Coming back from our example to "Self Justification Circuit".

Do you have this circuit in you. If you think you don't, quit reading right now. Because you are the one of the rarest, yet present in everyone, the near perfection person. Salute to you. Thanks for your time, reading till here.

So for the other people who agree they have this circuit (including me) we face two problems.

• How to detect this magnificent circuit
• How to override the "God damn! thing"

Honestly, so far only traces of both the solution has been found and they are to be customized to be useful for you. The core of the solution.

You have to override the circuit and don't let the circuit active even for a moment.

What it means? In context of the example, it means that one should have build the capability of letting the thing be fun even without knowing. Let me explain that this is not the same that you remember that you did the same thing and so you must not mind when it is done by someone else. That would be a temporary compromise not a permanent solution. What if the other one did it for first time before even you did anything like that? 

This solution requires two things: "Self Analysis Circuit" instead of "Self Justification Circuit" and the understanding between you two.

Both are really difficult and I wont feel any shame to tell that the solution has greater risks involved.

Now, comes the important question of HOW? This includes the solution for both problem of detecting and overriding the circuit. Well, right now, I have work to do and so I will put that in my next post.